Philosophy on Life - Philosophy on Love

So you gut hurt in the past, you got burnt by love and you swore ....... never again.

Now you are passing up on opportunities on love, you've built walls around your heart and promised yourself that you will never allow anyone to hurt you like that again.

What are you doing ???

You are labeling everyone. And I know men all kinda have the same labels, true .... maybe I just haven't met the one with the right label, maybe they are all just fake labels, but we still fall for them, they still make us melt in the most peculiar ways.

Yes I know men are assholes, doen's mean we are not taken by them.
Look they charm us, wine us, dine us.
They have this horrible attitude on life - women love to be screwed.
Can I tell you one thing though, we hate being screwed over .............
Men has the attitude of 'the power in any relationship lies with the one that cares less and believe me, they've mastered that one.

Just note - power is not happiness.
Happiness is about caring more about someone than less.....

So ..... you are afraid of letting go, you are afraid of allowing yourself to feel again ...... blocking out for the sake of never feeling the hurt again.


Can I tell you one thing ....

Don't run away from love ...
Don't get scared when love comes knocking on your door ...
Don't cut someone short for the 'just in case they hurt me' scenario .....
You need to risk love ......
That doesn't mean you are not going to get hurt, but
Any pain that you will feel, will never compare to the pain of regret that comes from walking away from love.
Regret has a way of eating at you, gnawing at your heart, making you miserable .....
Regret can fill your whole being with remorse.
Don't let it happen ....... don't let yourself go........
Let someone special break down those walls you've built around your heart,
the stones will be lying at your feet, if needs be, you just pick them up and start building again.


Give that someone a chance - it might just be Mr Right .......
you wouldn't know if you don't try.

What if ....... that was sincerity.......and you blew it ...... would you be able to live with the regret????????

heartache

For every up - there is a down.

I choose to have more up's than down's.

But sometimes, despite all - i also hit a low, that rockbottom moment.
This is the time when questions pops into mind and you start doubting yourself.

Why on earth do people have these multiple personality problem, jeez why is it so difficult just to be honest and open about what you want in life - say what you want - then I will know when, where and how to approach you.
Then on the other hand ..... you get the people who brushes you off when it suits them and they are not in the mood to talk. But the moment they have their up moment, you have to stop all you are doing and fall in with their happy mood - AND - let's not forget, if you are down, they are not there for you, does not even pick up on your mood, BUT never ever be inconsiderate to their moodswings.

BUT ...........

I pick myself up again and just want to remind you of the words of an awesome song, Ben's Brother, I am who I am:

I am who I am, and you can't change me
I've done what I can, now I'll stand my ground
you're tying my hands if you re arrange me ... it all falls down ....

why, when you dream, you see me as something i'm not?
why don't you wake up and see all the good things you've got?
A heart isn't made out of clay - not something you shape with your hands.

Is the reason why you ask me to change, so that you'll stay the same?
well I'm sorry if I keep on dissapointing you again and again

I am who I am and you can't change me
I've done what I can, now I'll stand my ground
you're tying my hands if you re arrange me
it all falls down ........


Yet again - it's fun to be me ............ live your life the way you want to - i'll just be me ....

The Fun Continues

Endless fun time, me time, friend time!!!!!!
Girls day out - sunday 13 Sept - Sonel and I went on a fun girls breakaway for the day ....... having fun with her new car, time to indulge in all that is not always allowed ....

The birthday celebrations for 5 Sept, that has started on 22 Aug, ended on a high note.

Fun, entertaining, pleasurable, delightful, enjoyable,amiable - Upper Deck was naughty fun at it's best - when was the last time you flirted, just for the fun of it, just to see if you still had it, could still turn a switch ON?

Well it worked = like a charm, he falls hard, solid, and then DAMN - the guy is married, oh well aren't all the good guys anyway????

Too bad, so sad Mr J, you are losing out on a fun, exciting, sweet, intelligent, clever, bright, gifted, sharp girl and i am sure you are kicking your ass right about now - hope you appreciate your wife for putting up with your shit and your awfull ways ....... ok yes I was no angel, but the flirt part was to see how far the seducing part can go, and how was I suppose to know he was married - any which way - NOOOOOO, nothing else happened - what on earth do you take me for - not cheap ....... just fun and the next best thing to a crispy Martini ........

Eat your heart out J - you lose ..........

Achievement

You do things you hate - you do things you love, you do things that is requested of you ........

Despite all > sometimes something comes along > totally unexpected, and without realising how much you would enjoy it, you become the top award winner of hard work, commitment, extended hours of studying and cutting back on your social life.

The day before my graduation, i received a call from the IOB (Institute of Bankers) informing me that I've been selected as the top perfomer of the program, I was requested to prepare a speech for the occasion.

Totally out of my depth, I was thrown into speechwriting and the 'fear' of delivering a speech in a room full of people, delegates of the program, IOB and Bankseta executives, management and facilitators.

My dear brother in law - Errol, thank you for the speech tips and my exceptional 'ice breaker' - I had the entire crowd in stitches ........ they moment they laughed, I relaxed and my speech was smooth ................

To all my delegates in the program ......... this award goes to you, we have all worked very hard, put in a lot of hours on top of normal working hours.
May you all become top achievers in your different fields .............
SALUT

Winter has thrown off his icy coat and summer came fast - only to throw us back in winds of August that was skipped.

Let the winds blow - blow away everything that has died this winter, brown leaves, broken hearts, shredded dreams ........ come on, bring blooms of spring, fill the air with your sweet smell with awesome blooms of promise.

Take our breath away and let everyone see - it's fun to be me!!!!!!